A\u015fk mektuplar\u0131 denince akla genellikle sevgililere yaz\u0131lan sat\u0131rlar gelir. Bu yaz\u0131m\u0131zda bir baban\u0131n o\u011fluna a\u015fk\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretti\u011fine tan\u0131k olaca\u011f\u0131z. John Steinbeck\u2019in o\u011fluna yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 mektup; nas\u0131l hissedilece\u011fini de\u011fil, zarar vermeden a\u015fk\u0131 nas\u0131l ta\u015f\u0131mak gerekti\u011fini anlat\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1958 y\u0131l\u0131nda Steinbeck, o\u011flu Thom\u2019un ilk a\u015fk\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenir. Thom yat\u0131l\u0131 okuldayken Susan ad\u0131nda bir k\u0131za a\u015f\u0131kt\u0131r ve duygular\u0131n\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda ne yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmez. Bunun \u00fczerine Steinbeck, bir baba olarak \u00f6\u011f\u00fct veren de\u011fil, anlay\u0131\u015fl\u0131 bir taraftan mektup yazar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Steinbeck mektubuna, o\u011flunun hislerini k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemeden ba\u015flar. A\u015fk\u0131 ge\u00e7ici bir heves ya da kontrol edilmesi gereken bir durum olarak g\u00f6rmez. Tam tersine, bu duygunun insan\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na gelebilecek en de\u011ferli deneyimlerden biri oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yler. Ona g\u00f6re a\u015fk, korkulacak de\u011fil; dikkatle ve \u00f6zenle ya\u015fanmas\u0131 gereken bir h\u00e2ldir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mektubun en \u00e7arp\u0131c\u0131 yanlar\u0131ndan biri, Steinbeck\u2019in a\u015fk\u0131 sahip olmakla de\u011fil, anlay\u0131\u015fla tan\u0131mlamas\u0131d\u0131r. O\u011fluna, sevginin zorla tutulamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131; bask\u0131yla, beklentiyle ya da \u0131srarla b\u00fcy\u00fcmeyece\u011fini hat\u0131rlat\u0131r. E\u011fer duygular kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131ks\u0131z kal\u0131rsa, bunun da a\u015fk\u0131n bir par\u00e7as\u0131 oldu\u011funu kabul etmek gerekti\u011fini s\u00f6yler. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ger\u00e7ek sevgi, kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k almak de\u011fil, zarar vermeden sevebilmektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Steinbeck\u2019in bu sat\u0131rlar\u0131, a\u015fk\u0131 romantik bir idealden \u00e7ok etik bir duru\u015f olarak ele al\u0131r. Sevmek; kontrol etmek, y\u00f6nlendirmek ya da talep etmek de\u011fildir. Sevmek, kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131ndakinin varl\u0131\u011f\u0131na sayg\u0131 duymak ve onu oldu\u011fu h\u00e2liyle kabul edebilmektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cE\u011fer a\u015f\u0131k olduysan e\u011fer – bu g\u00fczel bir \u015feydir – bir insan\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na gelebilecek en g\u00fczel \u015feydir. Kimsenin bunu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcltmesine ya da azaltmas\u0131na izin verme\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Bu mektup, bir baban\u0131n o\u011fluna verdi\u011fi basit bir nasihatten \u00e7ok daha fazlas\u0131d\u0131r. A\u015fk\u0131 y\u00fccelten ya da dramatize eden de\u011fil; onu insan\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fcten bir deneyim olarak konumland\u0131ran zamans\u0131z bir metindir. Belki de bu y\u00fczden John Steinbeck\u2019in o\u011fluna yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu mektup, bug\u00fcn h\u00e2l\u00e2 unutulmazlar aras\u0131nda yer al\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" John Steinbeck\u2019in o\u011fluna yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 mektup, a\u015fk\u0131 zarar vermeden sevmeyi anlat\u0131yor. Bir babadan o\u011fluna zamans\u0131z bir a\u015fk dersi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3502,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[77],"tags":[208,84,85],"class_list":["post-3501","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kultur-sanat","tag-johnsteinbeck","tag-ziaonline","tag-ziaonlinedergi"],"blocksy_meta":[],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/1200x900-11-1.png",1200,900,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/1200x900-11-1-150x150.png",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/1200x900-11-1-300x225.png",300,225,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/1200x900-11-1-768x576.png",768,576,true],"large":["https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/1200x900-11-1-1024x768.png",1024,768,true],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/1200x900-11-1.png",1200,900,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/1200x900-11-1.png",1200,900,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"Z\u0130A ONLINE","author_link":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/?author=1"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"John Steinbeck\u2019in o\u011fluna yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131 mektup, a\u015fk\u0131 zarar vermeden sevmeyi anlat\u0131yor. Bir babadan o\u011fluna zamans\u0131z bir a\u015fk dersi.","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3501","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3501"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3501\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3503,"href":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3501\/revisions\/3503"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/3502"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3501"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3501"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zerriniremakbay.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3501"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}